Here’s to that Perfect Bond with your Child

Spending quality time with your children will go a long way in building those vital bonds between you and them.

One of the most powerful tools parents have for raising their children is the natural emotional bond between them. Children who feel close to their parents have a strong mind and high self-esteem. Teens whose parents are emotionally distant from them are often depressed and lack a sense of emotional well-being. Such teens have more difficulty in adjusting to the work environment and new social situations.

To build a strong relationship, complement your child’s potential and abilities. It is important to pay attention to your child’s need and listen to them. Your child will display the same behavior towards you and others outside the house. Remember respect is a two-way street that builds trust, encouraging good relationships.

  • Eat meals as a family

You have heard this before, and it really is important. Eating together sets the stage for conversation and sharing. Turn the TV off, and don’t rush though a meal. When schedules permit, really talk and enjoy one another. It can become quality time most remembered by young and old alike.

  • Seek out one-on-one opportunities often

Some parents have special nights or “standing dates” with their children to create that one-on-one opportunity. Whether it is walk around the neighborhood, a special trip to a playground, or just a movie night, it is important to celebrate each child individually. Although it is more of a challenge the more children in the family, it is really achievable. Think creatively and the opportunities created will be ones that you remember in the future.

  • Respect your child’s choices

You don’t have to like their mismatched shirt and shorts or love how a child has places pictures in the room. However, it is important to respect those choices. Children reach out for independence at a young age, and parents can help to foster those decision-making skills by being supportive and even looking the other way on occasion. After all, it really is okay if a child goes to daycare with a striped green shirt and pink shorts.

  • Make your children a priority in your life

Your children need to know that you believe they are a priority in your life. Children can see excessive stress and notice when they feel you are not paying them attention. Sometimes, part of being a parent is not worrying about the small stuff and enjoying your children. They grow up so fast, and every day is special. Take advantage of your precious time together while you have it.

 

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