“You know you really let me down. I do so much for you, why can’t you just do this one thing for me?” You know, if I wanted to travel, I wouldn’t have taken a guilt trip. It is time to revolt against the type of person who is infamous for plaguing you with guilt trips.
A word of caution, though. They can come in many forms. They disguise themselves as family members, friends and you may be one yourself Parents are professionals at guilt trips. There must be mandatory guilt trip classes at the time of conception. The techniques they use often vary between three different themes:
1) You’re growing up and leaving. “When you go away to college, your mother’s going to divorce me. You’re all we have in common.”
2) You’re so busy with your friends that you no longer take an interest in family matters. “What are you doing here? Do you still live here? I would have never known.”
3) They hold anything they have ever done for you over your head. “I’ve fed you, clothed you, supported you all your life and this is how you treat me?”
The all-time worst guilt trip (which has put tons of people in therapy) are those stories they tell you about naughty children when you’re too young to know any better. When I was young, I wandered off once when we went for a picnic. When I returned, they told me the story of “Ghongo maam” This is an old tale about a man who takes away bad children by putting them in an old gunny bag he carries. He can take any form and can be anyone and he takes away children who do not listen to their parents and wander away from their parents.
Your parents are not the only ones guilty of this hideous crime, though. Imagine, if you will, a very busy week. The type of week when you feel overwhelmed by everything. You’re stressed out as it is. Then your phone rings.
The first thing you hear is, “Are you mad at me? Why haven’t you called?” All of a sudden you’re being accused of not caring, putting other people before them and taking advantage of your friendships in general. The scary thing is that if its done correctly, you start to believe them. You sit there thinking, “I am horrible. I really don’t deserve anybody’s friendship,” when in reality the person who is doing this to you doesn’t deserve your friendship.
Let’s say you eat a huge piece of cake for breakfast. You know you shouldn’t have done that, so you spend the rest of the day trying to make up for it. You start to eat “nutritious” foods and drink tons of water. By the end of the day, all you’ve succeeded in doing is making yourself feel bloated from drinking so much water.
The most successful way to combat a guilt trip is to become overly dramatic yourself. The next time someone says something that implies you’ve let them down, threaten to kill yourself. That should shut them up. If you’re the one giving yourself guilt trips, see a therapist. Ask him why you’re spending so much time talking to yourself in the first place.