“Happiness is not something ready-made. It comes from your own actions”.
– The Dalai Lama
Yes and it is true.
The degree of our happiness is always based on comparisons.
I have, he doesn’t have!
I own, she doesn’t own!
I am successful and you are not!
I am a king and you are a loser!
Comparisons – are what make us happy. It’s not a sin that you feel this way. I am human and your are human too! It’s what our tendency is! But ever wondered how the world will be if we only compare it with our past! And by past I meant, the time before the happiness. Not afterlife or before life!
The time when you used to earn a miniature amount and now you earn a lump sum. When you compare both of them – you become happy. The same principle holds good for everything in life. The time you had a good life and the time you have a better life.
The time you were just somebody and the time you are someone special.
The time when you were an employee and the time you are the employer.
Life imparts happiness in strange ways!
When you compare your happiness with another individual
When you compare your success with a nobody
When you compare your achievements with a loser
It makes you even more happier.
Ten years from now, you and I will earn a lump sum.
Ten years back it was negligible.
In the first few days of being employed – each time you get a salary – you get a kick out of it.
It brings you happiness. But with time you get used to that money and you again aim for a bigger amount. The point is we get used to things very easily.
Things that makes me happy now – will no longer make me happy
The state of mind is always a key to happiness.
You can be happier in sad times also.
” Every day, think as you wake up, today I am fortunate to be alive, I have a precious human life, I am not going to waste it.”
– The Dalai Lama
But we are humans and it is by the law of nature we always want more. They say if you stop complaining you start living you life and then you will be happy eventually but you won’t grow in life.
I couldn’t help but wonder which is more important – happiness or success
We get used to people even more easily – is that good or bad?
But if we get used to people so much – is it why we take them for granted? Is it why they say there is no love left in a relationship?
Does that mean there is no compassion left?
Is getting used to people – is why we lose them?
Often I sit, relax and ask myself a simple question – am I happy enough?
What is happiness?
When I drink a cup of coffee – that makes me happy
When I read a good book – that makes me happy
When I talk to a friend-that makes me happy
When I take a good picture-that makes me happy
When I travel to a new place-that makes me happy
When I have a piece of chocolate – that makes me happy
Happiness is so simple. Then why is it difficult to be happy?
When you speak of a calm sense of mind or peace of mind – that doesn’t include an insensitive or apathetic state of mind
Not letting anything affect you – doesn’t make you happy
Not letting anything penetrate you – doesn’t give you peace
Peace of mind comes out of love and compassion. As the Dalai Lama says “Love and compassion are not luxuries- they are necessities”
You cannot be happy without being dragged to it!
Then there are things that we don’t understand!
There are things we don’t find an answer for!
When we don’t find answers, we blame it on science. We search for the scientific facts and once we find it. We are content. We have answers.
“Science is the best answer”
– The Dalai Lama
There is always a key to a key hole and there is always a reason for happiness.