“Do you see the truth in what I am saying? Are you alive? Do you feel the flow of love in your veins? If you do not feel that flow, if the throbbing of love in your heart has ceased, then you should understand well that you are not really alive at all.”
Think about this a little ā your constant need for love. You want someone to love you, and if someone loves you you feel good. But what you donāt know is that the other loves you only because he wants you to love him. It is just like someone throwing bait to fish: he does not throw it for the fish to eat, he throws it to catch the fish. He does not want to give it to the fish, he only does it because he wants the fish. All the people that you see in love around you are only throwing bait to get love. They will throw the bait for a while, until the other person starts feeling that there is a possibility of getting love from this person. Then he too will start showing some love until eventually they realize that both of them are beggars. They have made a mistake: each had thought the other was an emperor. And in time each one realizes that he is not getting any love from the other, and thatās when the friction starts.
If they are dependent on each other, clinging, possessive, if they donāt allow each other to be alone, if they donāt allow each other space enough to grow, they are enemies, not lovers; they are destructive to each other, they are not helping each other to find their souls, their beings. What kind of love is this? It may be just fear of being alone; hence they are clinging to each other. But real love knows no fear. Real love is capable of being alone, utterly alone, and out of that aloneness grows a togetherness
If you understand me well drop all fears and love more and love unconditionally ā and donāt think that you are doing something for the other when you love, you are doing something for yourself. When you love it is beneficial to you. So donāt wait; donāt say that when others love, you will love ā that is not the point at all.
I like your comparison of bait to the fish to loving people with selfish motives!