The process of accepting yourself as who you are and liking who you are as a person, is one of the most crucial steps to being accepted by another person in a social manner. Friends, Relationships and Group Discussions are all things that being able to accept yourself will bring the best experiences out of these confrontations.
If you’ve ever been in a social situation where whatever you said came out wrong and everything you did seemed awkward and out of character then you’re not alone as nearly everyone has experienced this at sometime. If, however, this is so regular that you just feel you can’t be yourself socially then two things are happening: you’re very nervous and your self confidence is lacking when you need it most. The main problem with being yourself socially is that people make judgments quickly so you want to not only look confident, feel relaxed but also have the courage to speak honestly and express your true feelings (except when they would hurt someone of course). In order to do this you will need to have the self esteem to help you to value yourself and your right to speak out.
There are teens who feel that it is necessary to change themselves to be accepted by a group of people, now while we all do change ourselves a little to fit our friends, and our families. It isn’t healthy to permanently become someone you are not, because you become enveloped in a false air and while it may not produce negative results, it will produce false relationships. You can’t be yourself if you don’t know, understand, and accept yourself first. It should be your primary goal to find this out. Try to take time to yourself and contemplate your life and choices. Try to think about what kind of things you would or wouldn’t like to do, and act accordingly; finding out through trial and error helps more than you might think it does. You can even take personality tests, but be careful to only take what you want from them and not let them define you. Work on accepting mistakes and choices you’ve made; they’re done and in the past, so there is no use crying over spilled milk.
What have you got to hide? We’re all imperfect, growing, learning human beings. If you feel ashamed or insecure about any aspect of yourself and you feel that you have to hide those parts of you, whether physically or emotionally then you have to come to terms with that and learn to convert your so-called flaws into individualistic quirks. Be honest with yourself, but don’t beat yourself up; apply this philosophy to others, as well. There is a difference between being critical and being honest; learn to watch the way you say things to yourself and others when being honest The common thing a lot of people do is copy other’s actions because it seems like the better route to fit in, but really, shouldn’t you stand out? Standing out is very hard, yes, but you need to try avoid assuming other people’s perspectives of you. Even if it’s not something you would normally do; that’s what being yourself is all about. Maybe you like to sit outside on the deck under an umbrella in the middle of the rain, maybe you have different ideas of things, rather than other people, maybe you like strawberry cake instead of the common chocolate cake, whatever you are, accept it.
Being different is absolutely beautiful and it attracts people to you.
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