Adultescence and you

To be or not to be an adult

If you are a teenager/twenty something spending your vacations at home,you might find the following things familiar – your sleeping pattern doesn’t exactly match that of your parents,you have at least one addiction(I’m talking about cellphones/laptops/gaming consoles here), someone else does all the cooking for you, you’re constantly nagged by your mom for being unorganized, dirty, etc and by your dad for not working hard enough. If even one of the above is true, then congrats, you’ve successfully claimed your place in ‘The adultescence club’. If cleaning up your room means making a pathway from the door to your bed, you’re quite a pro, they say. However, be not proud, you’re also being touted as the biggest parenting failure of all times, with your generation being the most irresponsible and incapable of carrying out daily life.

To be or not to be an adult

According to an article in The New Yorker – Spoiled Rotten , you and me belong to a generation that is spoilt beyond repair. Of course,the article focusses mainly on Americans, but it also holds true for a significant part of Indian youngsters. After all,haven’t your parents at one time or the other been skeptical of letting you do something that you were capable of? Say,your parents tied your shoe laces till you were 9 or 10 years old. You still can’t cook as your mum thinks you’ll burn up the house. And there are a few people whose mothers pack their luggage when they come to college and some go to the extent of coming all the way to the hostel to set up their kids’ room! ’Helicopter parenting’ comes with a quite a few perks,doesn’t it?

Moreover, who in his/her normal sense would bother doing their laundry, cooking their meals and offering to run a few errands for their parents when the parents (add a hired help in case of India) are ever ready to do so. Also, a lot of parents actually find it easier to do things themselves not getting it done by us (Pssst…all those times we act as if we can’t hear what mum/dad are saying –we’re basically ignoring them). Also, in the current economic situation, parents’ main focus is that we get a good education and a sound job. Acting like an adult, can wait. Hence the luxury of being spared half the responsibilities. That we use the so thoughtfully crafted out time playing games, watching endless re-runs of shows, Facebook-ing, to name a few, is a totally different story!

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  • Kriti0211

    this one is really nice! so damn true!

  • thank you all 🙂

  • LOL… i showed this to my mom.. cos just the other day we were having an argument where i put forward these exact points! 😀 Very well written!

  • Srishti Singh

    @drvishaalbhat:disqus  @83c4f23553e8a06c3a8392a1def9e6d7:disqus :Thank you so much for your comments.However I’d beg to differ with Dr.Bhat on the point of Helicopter Parenting.Maybe my article was misunderstood because i’ve written it with a hint of sarcasm.However,the truth IMHO is that the situation in India is somewhat worse compared to US as parents here hover around (hence the term Helicopter) their kids more than its necessary.I’d urge people to read the article on The New Yorker as well,if they have time.People asked me what i was exactly trying to prove here.Well,nothing actually.Its just a general view of things with a little sarcasm.Parents protect us so much and also expect us to behave like adults.Agreed,our generation is spoilt and lazy but it can’t totally be called our fault.

  • Tanmay771

    Nice article Srishti!! Keep writing! 🙂

  • One of the best articles I’ve read on ManipalBlog till date. Love the writing style.  Agree with most of the stuff you’ve written about, however, I disagree that parents today are shifting to what you’ve termed “Helicopter Parenting”. There are some who still put in an effort, especially in India 🙂